Admitting failure to ourselves and others is one of the hardest things we have to do, and for many people divorce is just that, an admission of failure. It is the failure of two different people to build a life where both can feel fulfilled. But rather than a personal failure, such as trying to learn the guitar or to speak Italian, divorce is generally a failure in perception. The person with whom you joined your life is not the person you believed them to be, or over time your own values and goals have shifted. In some cases one person may play a larger role in the events that build to divorce, but as with any relationship, the nature of sharing such an experience makes it impossible to assign sole blame. We lose and gain friends throughout our lives with little consequence, but with divorce, a deeply personal relationship impacts every aspect of our daily lives.